The loss of a relative can be one of the most difficult challenges we face in our lives. And when that relative is your life partner the grief can sometimes seem unbearable. We all understand that loss is a natural part of life but it can still come as a shock and how we cope with our loss can differ from person to person. Some may immerse themselves in their work while others find that spending time with family members allows them to make it through the grieving process.
And while the passing of time can help diminish the intense feelings of loss, for many the idea of being intimate with another person is simply not an option. This can happen for a number of reasons chief of which is a sense of loyalty to their now deceased partner. But the truth is that we all have needs, and we have recently learned that a realistic doll can be of great benefit to those who have suffered a loss.
This unusual benefit of a love doll came to our attention during a follow-up email with one of our customers when he explained to us how his doll had helped him immensely. So with his permission (and a slight name change), he agreed to let us share his story in the hopes that other bereaved men could learn from his experience.
Meet Robert, a 53-year-old widower who lost his wife to cancer just over a year ago. With his children grown and living out of state, he had a tough time coping with his wife’s death.
“The kids have their lives, and I have mine, but when they left after the funeral, I felt incredibly alone. Of course, I had my friends and my job to keep me busy, but the house was empty every night when I got back.”
“The first few months were tough, but you deal with it, and after a while, I started getting back to a normal life. And about six months after my wife’s passing, I started to rediscover my needs. You know I got the urges again, but I didn’t want to be with another woman, it just felt wrong. Then I saw a thing on TV about people using dolls as a way to cope with the loss of a loved one. I was skeptical at first, but after I had done a bit of research, I realized that this was the ideal solution for me.”
“You see, I wanted those feelings of intimacy again that you just can’t get watching something on a computer or TV screen. I wanted the feeling of touch but like I said I just couldn’t bear to be with another woman so soon after my wife passed.”
A few weeks after making his decision, Bernard took delivery of his customized doll from MySiliconeLoveDoll, and since then, he hasn’t looked back.
“The box arrived all discrete so not even the delivery guy knew what was in it and to be honest I felt a bit apprehensive about using my doll for the first time, but you know what? She has really helped me. I no longer feel frustrated, and I still feel like I’m true to my wife. I know it sounds a little odd but having her around the place actually feels good too. I even talk to her just like people talk to the TV or the radio. I actually thought she would help me only in a sexual way, but it feels like more than that.”
“I’ll never be as happy as I was with my wife, but now I feel like I have no more frustration welling up inside of me. And the feeling of loneliness is becoming much more bearable.”
“As a way to help men deal with their urges after the initial period of grief is over, I reckon this is one of the best things they could do, especially if they don’t want another relationship.”
Robert’s story really moved us, and we were a little surprised to find that he’s not the only one to have made this decision. It seems that there are many widowed men that now use love dolls as a means to fulfill their needs and even keep them company in bed at night.
Yes, it might sound like an unusual solution to a deeply emotional issue, but grief is a very complex thing, and if our dolls can help men or women fulfill their desires at a time when they understandably wish to remain single, then we are extremely proud.